Fear is the Root of All Unhappiness

This morning I came across another awesome quote from Mahatma Gandhi which resonated so deeply within me:

If I have learned anything is this life, this has been my most profound and powerful lesson. I can honestly say that fear is the root of every prejudice, hatred, bully, war, insecurity, insanity- every ill will you can think of. Some people believe that the love of money is the root, or pride or the thirst for power; yet, these are all tentacles off the root of fear.

The love of money comes from a place of fearing we will not have enough, or we will have less than someone else, which may then be seen as we are less than others. Money induces a sense of security and control over our lives. Losing money makes one fear what might happen to them.
Pride comes from a place of fear; if you think about it, the reason someone appears prideful, is because they are afraid of being seen as weak or wrong. A fear of being wrong will sabotage a persons ability to see clearly.
The thirst for power comes from a fear of being overpowered, and possibly hurt by others.

It is not until we root up fear in our lives that we can have true peace, happiness and love.
It is written in the Bible, "Perfect love casts out fear for fear is tormenting." (1 John 4:18)

I have personally had to battle many fears throughout my life; and each fear I have overcome has led to bliss, greater faith in God, more hope for the sad conditions we see in the world, and a deeper love for all living beings.

All the things we are trying to attain to and to take hold of here slips away like sand through a sieve. Nothing ever remains except, "Faith hope and love, these three; and the greatest of these is LOVE!" (1 Cor. 13:13)

If you really give yourself time to meditate on this, you will see the truth of Gandhi's words. We hate what waters and feeds our deepest fears. The fastest way to all we have ever desired is to cast out fear. But that is easier said than done.

One way that has been helpful to me is what I call the Spiral Question and Challenge, an adaption from what I have learned from Teal Swan. I have found that emotions spiral, either up (higher vibes) or down (lower vibes). When your find them spiraling down, do not resist it but rather go with the flow asking the questions all the way down, "Is that true?" and "So what is so bad about that?"

Example:

Fear: "If (fill in the blank__________) I might lose my job!"
Is that true? yes!
So what is so bad about that?
"Well, if I lose my job, then I wont have any money."
Is that true? "Yes!"
So what is so bad about that?
"If I don't have any money, I will lose my home. My family will be on the streets."
Is that true? "Well...... maybe not in the streets but in a shelter."
So what is so bad about that?
"Shelters are dirty and humiliating."
Is that true? If so, what is so bad about that?
"We would get sick, and everyone will think I am a loser."
Is that true? "Well, we may get sick, and I guess not everyone would think that."
If both did come to pass. What is so bad about that?
"We would die and our life would be for nothing."
Is that true? Absolutely not!
That is a socially-constructed belief. Everything we experience in this life has a purpose, a lesson and a reason. 

Now lets spiral back up the same ladder....

• We didn't get sick
• Everyone didn't hate us, in fact, I was shocked at how many people cared and helped us out. 
• We never ended up in a shelter because we were offered other places to live, which we didn't need to take because I actually found another job that ended up being a much better fit for me and pays more and really not only did things not go bad, they ended up better. 
• My faith in humanity was restored. 

The ladder we spiraled down was the FEAR ladder. The one we climbed back up was the HOPE, FAITH and LOVE ladder.

Try it, on whatever your current greatest fear might be.

Overcome your fears and start living a life of happiness, rooted in faith, hope and love.
This is the essence of the High Vibes Life!

Laughter- the best way to high vibes!

Yesterday in my speech class, we were doing impromptu speeches and one of the young ladies got up to do her speech, but could not get past the first line. She just kept laughing hysterically and saying, "I don't even know why I'm laughing."

Soon the entire class was laughing, and none of us knew why either, only that her laughter was contagious and we had caught it! That's how genuine laughter is; it spreads from person to person.

My sisters and I have this malady whenever we get together as well and the more tired we are, the more intense the laughter becomes.

If your in need of some vibrational elevation, laughter is the grand-master key! Find a movie, a sitcom, a friend- anything that makes you laugh!

"Laughter is the fireworks of the soul"

"Laughter is timeless; 
imagination has no age; 
and dreams are forever"

~Walt Disney

"Life is better when you're laughing"

"Laughing will always be the best form of therapy"

"When you love and laugh abundantly

you live a beautiful life!"

"Laughter is an instant vacation"

~Milton Berle

"With mirth and laughter,

let the wrinkles come"

~William Shakespeare 

"Laughter heals all wounds,

and that's one thing everybody shares"

~Kevin Hart

"I love it when somebodies laugh

is funnier than the joke"

"A child's laugh could simply be

One of the most beautiful sounds

in the world"

Video By AFV kids

Dr. Emoto's Proof that Words Have Power To Heal and to Destroy

The power of words is AMAZING! I mean, take a look at these magnified water crystals, that Dr. Masaru  Emoto took, as they were spoken to . . .

So yeah, I had to share the following video that talks about his experiment with words and rice and then shows four other people conducting the same experiment with similar results . . .

I was especially amazed at how indifference- lack of interest, concern, or sympathy; unimportant, can have a worse impact than even negative words. Having been treated with indifference myself, by people that should have cared, I have often said, being indifferent to someone, is one of the worse and most degrading things you can do to them- because, basically you are saying to them, you don't even matter! That is such a painful a message and one that is not easily overcome.

Think about it!

Are You in a Codependent Relationship?

I. Codependency

1. Not found in the American Psychological Association’s (APA) DSM-V is a book of that is used to identify and define mental disorders. It is not considered a mental illness, yet it is a term that pops up frequently with a disparaging connotation behind it 
2. Originally, codependency was used to describe those who were enablers of alcoholics, particularly the marriage partner. Today, codependency has a much broader spectrum of analysis 
3. Break down codependency: 

• Co: joint, mutual, common 
• Dependency: subordinate, controlled by another 

So we have here two or more individuals that control some aspect of the other. This is usually in the form of emotional control. There is much role playing in a codependency relationship, rather than authenticity. We have the victim/rescuer roles and they can interplay between partners, or, in other words, one can be in the victim role then change over to the rescuer role as the other now plays the victim role.

An article in “Psychology Today,” describes codependency as a:
close relationships where much of the love and intimacy in the relationship is experienced in the context of one person’s distress and the other’s rescuing or enabling. The helper shows love primarily through the provision of assistance and the other feels loved primarily when they receive assistance. The intense shared experiences of the other’s struggles and disasters and the helper’s rescues deepen the emotional connection and feelings of intimacy. In the codependent relationship, the helper’s emotional enmeshment leads them to keenly feel the other’s struggles and to feel guilt at the thought of limiting their help or terminating the relationship. This motivates them to reduce the other’s suffering (and their own) by continued helping and makes them quick to back off of any limits they set.” (“Are You in a Codependent Relationship? Shawn M. Burn Ph.D, July 14, 2013, https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/presence-mind/201307/are-you-in-codependent-relationship)

Signs of codependency may include:

1. Inability to find happiness or fulfillment outside the relationship 
2. Strong fears of abandonment 
3. Finding your self-worth in being that special someone to the other person 
4. Ignoring your own needs at the expense of taking care of the other person 
5. General feelings of addiction withdraw whenever you move away from the relationship 

Basically, an unhealthy relationship is when that relationship is more of an addiction, rather than a mutual, loving relationship. Addictive behaviors are seen in:

1. Feelings of euphoria- A fix for everything distressing and bad; Those feelings are very transient 
2. Panic over losing or not having the “fix” 
3. Unable to cope without the “fix” 
4. Little or no sense of self, or self-worth without the “fix” 
5. Isolation from friends and family due to the over obsession with the “fix” 
6. The “fix” having complete control over your emotional state 

 The beginnings of any addiction is when we experience something that makes us feel really good, joyful, happy and we are relieved of intense distressing feelings of depression, abandonment, loneliness, pain or illness. But when this experience fades, the undesirable feelings resurface and overwhelm us. We don’t know how to alleviate these negative feelings and aspects of our lives and the only relief we have found was in the experience. So we seek it out, again and again, each time becoming more habitual and more needed to bring the desired relief.

Sooner or later we begin to realize that the “fix” although it may bring temporary relief from anxiety, depression and other unwanted feelings, it can never, ever take the pain completely away. In fact, the “fix” begins to become part of the problem, because it keeps us from recognizing, acknowledging and seeking help for the real issues that are causing our discomfort and unhappiness. It is not until we realize this that we begin our road to recovery.

Facing the real issues our pain is coming from can be one of the bravest and yet most life-impacting steps we ever take. Learning how to turn and face our pain, to validate it and to take care of our needs will little by little, eradicate the addiction.

Sometimes, what we are addicted to, is not in and of itself, harmful. But the addiction to it renders it harmful- such as a food addiction, or a relationship addiction. The food, or the person (unless the person or food is unhealthy) are not bad- in fact, they are very needful to self-care. But when we grab onto anything in order to evade dealing with those aspects of life that are scary and uncomfortable, that becomes unhealthy.

So the short-hand of recovering from codependency is you have to deal with the core of your own wounds. If you break your foot, taking pain pills will only go so far. You have to deal with the break before you are going to heal. Otherwise, the pain pills will eventually cease to work. Emotional trauma and injury is just as real, and has just as much devastating effects and physical trauma and injury.

In my scope of understanding, I see all relationship as being somewhat codependent. If you think about it, why else would you be in a relationship? If there is absolutely no dependency for comfort, validation and feeling needed, what is the need for an intimate relationship? If every relationship that was co-dependent broke up, we would have no more relationships. A relationship becomes unhealthy when it becomes addictive- when one cannot find other sources for their basic emotional needs, and they hold the person in the relationship responsible for their needs being met.

Many people have had childhoods where their developing emotional needs were ignored and/or denied. Perhaps certain emotions such as anger or crying were unacceptable. Whenever I cried, my dad would call me a baby and tell me I was feeling sorry for myself. My mom would become very nervous and agitated if we cried and she was not comfortable with her own emotions. Anger was absolutely unacceptable and could result in punishment.

Many very religious homes hold emotional expectations on their children that are way beyond their emotional development, such as teaching them to ignore their own needs at the expense of others. This is cloaked in “nice” terms such as “self-sacrifice” or “unselfishness.” In a child who has not even completely developed his or her sense of self, this can have devastating effects. Teenagers bred under this type of pressure may become very unhappy, sometimes reckless and even suicidal.
Whenever you press down who you are- your needs, your desires- you become DE-pressed!

Parents, who have not healed of their own wounds may project what they personally want or think they should be, onto their children, not accepting their child's uniqueness and autonomy. This is very prevalent in religious-based homes. It is one thing to teach a child about God, and another to insist they render themselves to this unseen and unknown God, to pacify the fears of parents. How can a child give their life that they do not fully yet possess, to and entity they cannot fully comprehend? Many times parents demand of their children the pious life that they themselves have not been able to master. Children are denied curiosity, self-exploration and expression and the space they need to be authentic; it’s all sacrificed at the religious altar of their parents.

Many parents believe they are raising a pious individual and find out too late that instead, they have created an insecure, self-destructive, shell of a person. The beautiful authentic child was lost long ago in the barrage of over-zealous and ignorant projections. The child, now in a grown up body, yet still very emotionally under-developed, enters into relationships with the familiar aspects of control and manipulation.

Key- AWARENESS

The more aware we become, the more we are able to live our life with intention and purpose. Relationship should be entered into with agreement by both parties, rather than stumbled upon and waded through.

Moving Through Emotional Pain

In this video I talk about ways to move through emotional pain rather than getting stuck in it.

Expectations and Assumptions

Expectation is the mother of all heartache. Assumption is the Father of all war! Two words that pack a lot of power- born in the seat of the ego.
Ego is that part of us that feels separate from all others, including God, and does not perceive the true oneness of all things. Ego is what makes us unique in this physical world. Ego is self, and all the labels, judgments, and beliefs about self that comes with it. Ego is the part we are playing in this world; but it is not our true identity.

In John 17, Christ prays,

"My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. "

Sit with yourself for a while. Write down the last time you felt deep heartache and what the cause was. Evaluate the expectations that were there and how they were disappointed. Then write down someone who you feel very angry with or have a difficult time liking. Evaluate the assumptions you have made about this person. Now consider this person a part of you- "cut out of the same cloth," so-to-speak.

How might awareness of expectations and assumptions increase your joy and contentment?

The Empowered Woman

Holiday Onset Suicide Rescue

During the Holidays, many people become extremely depressed and suicide skyrockets. In this video I discuss this issue and give five tips to rescue a suicidal thought pattern.

Taking Care of Your Emotional Body During the Holidays

Here are the links for the ones I mentioned in my video:

 Teal Swan: The Spiritual Catalyst 

 Amanda Flaker

Rainbow in My Backyard

Rainbows are reminders that everything is going to be okay, that we are loved, and that every rainstorm bears a treasure. My soul is as the Sun; though the dark clouds may come and ferociously darken its light and wring out the tears of heaven, it can never take away it's strength and glory. When they dissipate, as they always will, the Sun will shine all the more brighter!

Tonight, my soul finds strength through the wise echos of NEVER!

• Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. ~Mark Twain
• Never stray away from yourself to get closer to someone else
• Never waste your feelings on people who don't value them
• Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~H. Fierstein
• Never give up on something that you can't go a day without thinking about. ~W. Churchill
• Never apologize for showing feeling; when you do, you apologize for the truth ~B. Disraeli
• Never be afraid of your tears
• Never forget your inner child
• Never lose hope
• Never waste to your time trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you
• Never chase love, affection or attention; If it isn't given freely by another person, it isn't worth having
• Never base your life decisions on advice from people who don't have to deal with the results
• Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up
• Never judge someone by the opinion of another
• Never lose an opportunity for seeing anything beautiful, for beauty is God's handwriting. ~R.W. Emerson
• Never, ever give up!

The Yearning

The Yearning

The stare that pierced my soul

with brows arched stern 

I shrank beneath her eyes

disapproval's cut and burn

I longed for her smile

One sparkle from those grey-blue peeps

That said, "I love you, I am so proud,

that you are mine for keeps."

Days ran into years;

Rain turned into tears;

Forgotten yearnings buried deep,

Now spring forth as I watch you sleep

Soft white box cradled your form;

Is that a breath that I see now?

A serene face was not to be;

Scornful death lay on your brow

I longed for her smile;

I searched her face still and pale;

But sternness chiseled out its frown;

Was it concealed behind the veil?

Minutes seem to be a thief;

Eternity holds every grief;

And though I sought but one small trace,

they bore you out with scornful face.

Written by: Elizabeth A. Van Cleve

Goodbye Weight of the World

Maybe it's a little bit of rebellion bubbling up from deep within; Maybe it is a little bit of midlife crisis- taking those scissors to my hair and removing about a third, and then a little more, and then just a little bit more! With each round of cutting I feel more courageous; I feel like I am ready to take that next mountain.

As I sweep up the locks tussled about the bathroom, a certain sort of mischievous smile creeps over my face. I dump them in the trash and stare down at the hair I had loathed to part with for so many years- years that began when I rushed with excitement to my aunts barber chair the first time she gave me a short haircut; How her and my mom gleefully exclaimed over me afterwards. But it wasn't to last. My daddy was furious and said I looked like a boy, and that nobody asked him if it was okay. Suddenly, my hair was not my own. It belonged to someone else- someone I loved and looked up to. And the scissors that had trespassed through my silky blonde mane, had displeased and angered him. Then there were the laughs and jeers in my first grade class; The beehive my mom had so proudly arranged the new cut into for my school pictures apparently wasn't so hip after all. Suddenly haircuts were dangerous. From then on I knew, never EVER cut my hair short- that's for boys. But at least I could curl it and style it and make it look pretty; until I was told that someone else did not approve. Someone even more powerful than my dad. Someone else I had learned to love and look up to. My hair did not belong to me-nor did anything else I had. God owned it and he greatly disproved of me cutting or even spending much time styling it. No, I must be careful not to look like the rest of the world. To mess with my hair was all the more dangerous now for it could lead me right to hell's eternal fire.

My eyes were now riveted on that pile of brown hair. I didn't feel the danger. I didn't feel the scorn. Rather, I felt so light and free . . . as if the weight of eternity had just been cut away.

How to Show Love to Someone Who is Depressed

Loved this article found at The Darling Bakers. It really offers some fresh ideas, not just the same old rehashed list.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing her to go deeper into her depression. Help your loved one keep her body healthy, and her mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike (exercise is an effective mood booster!) or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depressionhere.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of herself. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

Complete article can be found at:

10 Ways to Show Love to Someone With Depression

With Brave Wings She Flies!

WITH BRAVE WINGS SHE FLIES!

It's been almost a year since I left the church I had been a part of for close to 20 years. With all the courage I could muster, I walked out of the inner world of protocol, dogma and dictation and out into a world of uncertainty and misgiving. I waited for the sky to fall, for the serpent to bite, for the wrath of God to shake his finger at me and claim me a heretic doomed for hell's fires. Every slip away from the rules and regulations I had so faithfully adhered to, was followed by accusations that I was the devil's advocate and would soon be "seven times worse than before."

It wasn't a hasty nor a light decision. It began a few years prior, when in a desperate cry for relief from a monotonous, insipid life, I began to pray that God would take every ounce of religious spirit out of me and to help me to be a proper representative of him. Over the years, the splits, fighting, hurt and drama I had witnessed at church and in the religious world at large, I knew God could not be the instigator of it all. I was so discouraged and let down. I could not envision the entire world being locked down in this systematic way of living. Though I knew the world at large has great needs, this routine was not the answer.

I read several books by different women who were involved in religious cults. I saw the same fears of leaving, of God's wrath, of being the only way to heaven used on each one of these women. It opened my eyes to the manipulation of fear, and I saw that what was holding me to that church was no longer a love for Christ and his work; Somewhere along the way, that had been lost in all the do's and dont's and the complete take over of my life. I knew I was no longer happy there, that I was dying inside and they did not have the solution. And I knew that the only thing that was continuing to hold me there, was fear.

In the mean time, God was working so gently within my heart, calling me closer to him and giving me my wings. I read a book titled Half The Sky written by two journalist who traveled to several countries and witnessed the violation and oppression of women and young girls in developing countries. The stories in this book were absolutely horrific; A complete paradigm shift was going on inside of me. Little by little God began to rock my world so severely and I knew I needed to leave religion behind me.

One day it dawned upon me that these women were in countries and/or positions where they had no say about what was being done them. I thought about all the religious oppression world wide where torture and blood shed awaits any who would dare question the system. And here I was in AMERICA- the land of the FREE choosing OPPRESSION! I knew at that moment that this was not just about me. My freedom was about every man, woman and child out there who have no rights. My freedom was not to be taken lightly. My freedom was their HOPE!

One day I saw a vision of myself. I was in a large cage, curled up in a ball, crying. The door of the cage was wide open but I was too terrified to leave, because I believed the serpent waited without to devour me. Then God spoke to me and told me to use my wings and fly away.

It took a great amount of courage to leave flying straight towards my deepest fear. But the day I flew away, a great load lifted off of me and I knew, I had just taken my first step towards TRUE FREEDOM!- That freedom that comes from within, that nothing in this world can ever steal away- that freedom of KNOWING I have wings, and God is the wind beneath them, and that nothing could ever separate me from him. The day I walked away, was the beginning of my personal inner freedom;

Thank God for America- May God bless her. May she rise up and hold the freedom she still has left. May she continue to hold a scepter of HOPE out to the world.

Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Embarking On a Healing Journey

Part 1 

Why heal?

Part 2

Beginning to Build Your Personal Power

Part 3

Finding Your Voice

Morning Meditation with LizAnn

Part 1

Getting the Body Ready

Part 2

Relaxing and Clearing Your Mind

Part 3

Gratitude and Positive Intentions

Be Your Own Best Friend

Healing requires a commitment to becoming your own best friend. This is not as easy as it sounds. When the wounds are touched and the pain begins to surface, you may surprised to find self-sabotage on board that you never realized was there. You may be surprised at what you have externalized and accepted about yourself. When it comes time to offer yourself nurturing, you may find a real struggle going on within. It will be a challenge to say the least. But sooner or later you will learn, that no one knows you like yourself. No one understands what it was like better than you. And no one but you can administer instinctively, the right medicine for healing. Practice being your own best friend. Pay attention to how you talk to yourself, how you treat yourself especially when you have a need. Ask yourself, "If I had a friend hanging around that treated me this same way, would they be my friend for long?"

Start treating yourself as if you are the BEST friend anyone could ever have!

Creating Space for Healing

"Empty pockets of space can feel intimidating, but they are an integral part in healing . . . "

Last evening I was planting onion sets in my garden. They came in big clumps that had to be broken apart before I could put them into the ground:

Each onion set needs it own personal space in order to grow into its full potential. If I tried to plant them altogether, none of them would have the space they needed to grow and reach their highest potential. 

This demonstrates the same concept of creating our own personal space. We too need that space to grow and experience our fullest and highest potential. 

Spring Cleaning 3 & All or Nothing Thinking

All-or-nothing thinking affects so many who have been through childhood abuse. Learning to recognize it working in your life and creating more space for yourself can be great tools in overcoming the pendulum swing that results from this. Stay tuned for more videos on this subject.

Spring Cleaning and Self Nurturing

With this past semester now behind me, and summer vacation before me, I am in the mood to get in and get this house to SPARKLE! Follow along and we will get the job done as well as pep up our spirits with a little self-nurturing!